Anonymous asked: Good luck with your dreams. I dunno you, but I hope you can do it!
Thank you! :)
When I was young, my father bought packs of Starburst on long car rides and asked my brothers and I what our two favorite flavors were. He then twisted the colors we had picked together and laughed while handing them to us till all of the candies had run out.
When I was young, my grandma stored Andes chocolate mints in a small wooden box on a table near her front door. My brother and I always snuck a few out of the box during our visits and squished the wrappers between the cushions of her baby blue antique couch before leaving.
Now, the only time I eat Starbursts are during busy exam weeks when I need the sugar to ward off sleep for a few more hours. I rarely feel the deepness of my father’s laughter when unfolding the wrappers in between study guides.
Now, the baby blue antique couch sits in the corner of my parents’ house, covered with dark brown leather. Consequently, the brightness of it disappeared alongside her passing.
Time does harsh spells on our symbols of youth. Sometimes I wonder if it is the rotting of these objects that keeps me running into my future.
Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you.
We fear things in proportion to our ignorance of them.
You know I’m stressed out when I’ve cried myself to sleep 5 out of the past 7 days lol.
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn’t need to be keptinterested, because he knows you are interesting:
I don’t care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table—as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can’t stop looking.
I don’t care if he can’t play a bit of golf with me—as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
I don’t care if he doesn’t follow his wallet—as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
I don’t care if he is strong—as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
I couldn’t care less how he votes—as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
I don’t care about the color of his skin—as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
I don’t care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion—as long as he was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to “keep him interested” is to be you.
Your eternally interested guy,
Happy International Women’s Day
My dad taught me all these things without even saying them. I am a lucky girl to have him.
Anyone who takes the time to be kind is beautiful.
HERE is the DIFFERENCE. So many people get so confused. Difference between having anxiety and having an anxiety disorder.
I find that one of the most overlooked parts of science education in the USA is learning how to communicate about it effectively. A student can graduate with a bachelor degree in a hard science and have no idea how to speak intelligently and coherently about the subject material in their major. Science is like learning a new language. It’s important to understand it, but it is just as important to know how to discuss it with others. I believe the chances of new scientific discoveries would increase dramatically if more platforms were given for students to manipulate the theories they are taught.